So Who’s Right? Grief in the Midst of Politics…

100_0737I don’t usually write about political issues on this blog, but in light of many things I have read this week regarding various decisions made by the U.S. Supreme Court this week I am keenly aware of the deep connection there is to grief. There have been discussions regarding voting rights and the potential impact on minority groups nationwide. There have been discussions regarding marriage equality and how this affects both gay and straight. As evidenced by the votes taken by the Supreme Court there is great division – not just between the justices and politicians, but amongst the American people. I have read, seen and heard mudslinging from one camp towards another; I have read, seen and heard attempts at reconciliation; I have read, seen and heard genuine confusion and questioning regarding our nation’s future and the ever elusive path that we seem to be on; I have read, seen and heard declarations of winners and losers; I have read, seen and heard many different spiritual, religious and political stances declared and the name of god invoked by a plethora of differing groups (small cap of god intentional here).

As I read and engage in conversations around these very difficult issues of our day, I am reminded of the genuine pain and anguish that has been experienced by ALL parties and position holders – and in the midst of that very real pain and anguish is grief. There is grief as a result of bullying and discrimination and inequality; there is grief that ideas and beliefs that some have held dear are perceived to be threatened, misunderstood, not appreciated or valued; there is grief when someone is perceived to be a loser and another a winner; there is grief when we are unable to see the essence of God in all people, in all of creation; there is grief when people treat one another without respect and dignity, and the fundamentals of LOVE; there is grief when we can not realize that we are ALL vital members of society – even when we disagree with one another. So yes, there is grief in the midst of pain and anguish, and in the midst of politics. There is grief when we are faced with change; and there is certainly grief when we allow our fears – justified or not – to stand in the way of living and moving forward.

Change – whether it is perceived as transformation, reformation, resurrection, desecration or abomination has an element of grief; and this grief must be acknowledged and recognized if there is to be any chance of healing and wholeness for our world. So as we ponder the various decisions that have been made this week, I ask the question – “Who is right?” Though I have very strong beliefs and convictions that have led me to those beliefs; though I stand in unity with those seeking marriage equality and protection of voting rights, I  have come to the conclusion that none of us are right. For to declare one right and another wrong, to declare one a winner and one a loser is to perpetuate a dualistic mindset that has been dividing nations, faith groups, families, and communities for generations; and for me this is an element of grief that has been neglected and over looked for far too long.

So today I invite you to hold and embrace one another, to recognize the pain and anguish that others are feeling, to recognize the joy and hope that others are feeling, and to look deeply into the eyes of another and see the essence of God – which is LOVE. I pray that love will prevail in the midst of grief.

Holding you all in the healing light of God’s love


  • Kay

    Thank you Michael! So nice to see where you stand, and I never doubted your position. I believe in the core of my heart that Jesus called us to love, and that is our Christian call if we are to follow Jesus. There is a blog called freedhearts written by an evangelical woman who speaks to embracing the gay/lesbian community out of love, because Jesus loves all. I am not evangelical, but I found it interesting. There is a place for all to find healing and the Supreme Court ruling is hopefully the beginning. I pray the rest of the states will follow in allowing legalized marriage for all. It is a matter of justice, inclusion and equality. All the best! Kay

    • Michael Landon

      Hi Kay, Sorry for the delay in responding, we were out of town for a few days. I appreciate your feedback and sharing about the blog called freedhearts – I look forward to reading it. It has been interesting to see how some evangelicals are changing their perspective and understanding of what it means to love as Jesus loves. My prayers join yours… Many blessings to you! Michael

  • Maggie Z.

    Thank you. I am Catholic, and I am dreading going to church because I know the priests will be upset about these developments. It helps to look at their reaction from the point of view of grief.

    • Michael Landon

      You are very welcome. I am glad that you find this perspective helpful. My prayers are with you, your congregation and your priests as each discern God’s presence. I know many congregations, Catholic, Protestant and non-denominational that will be struggling; as well as many rejoicing… My prayer is that a place of peace and healing can be found for all.
      May the light of God’s healing love be with you…

  • Pam Dies

    Very well put! Awesome perspective, Michael!!

    • Michael Landon

      Thanks Pam! Blessings on your day. Michael

  • Amen!